The stages of herpes are very important for you to learn if you are one who suffers from the virus. The more you understand, the better you will be able to handle the outbreaks as they come.
Not everyone experiences this virus in the same way, but it does follow general stages.
Some people feel flu like symptoms at first. They may not even realize their illness is as a direct result of herpes! Not everyone experiences this stage, so just be extra careful if you have herpes and feel like you may be getting the flu.
To start off, you may develop redness in a certain area of your skin. This area can become quite itchy and even sore to the touch. Additionally, the area may begin to swell.
This early stage is sometimes not even noticed by the person who is having the outbreak. As they become more and more common, you will get to know the signs your body is giving you.
Then, the area may start to develop small blisters. These blisters may be filled with fluid. They can also be quite painful. When the blisters get full enough, they may burst and become like ulcers.
They scab over, which may make you want to peel off the scab. Do not do this! Scabs are there for a reason. While this is not one of the most pleasant stages of herpes, it is essential.
As these scabs get harder and harder, new skin grows right underneath the scabby area. If you’ve peeled the scab off this skin doesn’t have the same chance to grow.
Herpes lesions often heal over with no visible scarring. If you peel and pick at the scabs, they may leave a scar. Since you may get herpes outbreaks for the rest of your life, the last thing you need is a collection of scars from every outbreak you’ve ever had!
The best thing for you to do is learn the signs your body is giving you. If you catch an outbreak during the early stages of herpes, you will have an easier time with it.
You’ll also want to know the signs of herpes because you are more likely to pass the virus to others if you are having or are about to have an outbreak.
The stages of herpes are certainly not pleasant. But, the more you learn about them, the better chance you have at treating the virus. It is possible to have a normal life with herpes if you do your best to learn all you can.
i dont know how long ive had hsv i was with my husband for three years and never noticed anything funny i just got a new boyfriend and just recently found out im pregnant when i went for a check up they took blood and the next time i went they told me i have it i have no idea where it came from never had an outbreak very upset im only 20 years old my boyfriend took it ok and just wanted to make sure that the baby would be ok the doc said i will get a shot to prevent the baby from getting it also i heard that if you have hsv when ur pregnant your baby will have more of an immune to the virus.this really sucks i found out yesterday and really wanted to die all i can say is there is so much more to life than ending it over this.i hope everyone will feel better reading these comments
I was told i have herpes by a dermatologist this afternoon. a week to 10 days i got a small blister thena few more around it 5 days later.i haven’t had unprotected sex in around 2 years and i’ve been with the same girl ever since and she didnt have it. She is getting tested for it next week once my results are out. the doctor did a blood test and we’re waiting for her feedback but she gave me medication and cream for herpes right away.can herpes stay dormant for over 2 years!
Please, for all of you who are talking about killing yourselves because you feel worthless, please stop. Although herpes is unpleasant, it it not the end of the world! I’m not gonna lie, I felt hopeless when I found out but only because it was during my pregnancy and had no idea what to expect! I was petrified thinking that because of me my baby was going to be infected.
I was 5 months pregnant and had the worst possible outbreak. I had a fever that wouldnt go away, everything hurt, peeing felt like thousands of razors down there, and I remember feeling a lot of bumps down there as well. I was quite active during my pregnancy and pretty flexible so I grabbed a mirror to see what they were. I knew right there and then what it was. I mean it was obvious.
When I went to see my ob she said she had to take a culture test but that it did look like herpes. I lost it. I had a panic attack and the doctor hugged me and asked me if I needed someone to go in there to talk to me. All I could do was ask her about my baby. She said that as long as the “bag of water” he was in wasn’t ruptured (which is highly rare,) that the baby would be fine. She also said the virus cannot be transmitted through saliva or blood, and that I could even breastfeed the baby just fine. I felt relieved when she told me that it was very possible to deliver my baby vaginally and that she’s never experienced any complications because of herpes during labor. She simply prescribed aclyvoir for that outbreak, and advised me to take it during the last couple of weeks of my pregnancy unless I had other outbreaks. During labor they would check for any signs of herpes and as long as its nowhere near the vagina you should be fine. she even said that if I happen to have a blister around my thigh/buttock area that they would simply cover it up. Either way, she said that c-sections are rarely needed for herpes mothers and that a baby has rarely even been infected through delivery. She said that in the U.S alone, only a couple of states have had like 1 or two cases each and that was only because the mother was unaware she was infected. So it’s pretty rare.
All this was a relief, but I was still scared and depressed. It was something that I had to endure alone, and trust me it’s not easy during a time like this. After a few days of crying, I decided to continue my pregnancy as I was before I found out. I continued to eat healthy and exercise till the day I gave birth. I had a perfectly normal delivery (may I add that I was also kind of high risk because I have hyperthyroidism)without epidural. My baby came out healthy and I was able to breastfeed just fine.
That was four years ago. Since then, I’ve only had a few minor outbreaks. YES, it’s true that the first one is always the worst, however, I did have a severe one about two years ago but that was due to a lot of stress. I have HSV 1 so fortunately it’s not that bad. Plus, you have to realize that your body creates antibodies that help agaisnt outbreaks.
I don’t know who gave it to me, but I don’t stress out about it. I have a normal life and don’t really think about it, except when I happen to get an outbreak. When I spoke to my boyfriend about it, it wasn’t easy but he was very understanding.
Look at it this way. Yes it may feel embarassing and everything but you should not feel ashamed or guilty. If you have it, you have it and there’s nothing you can do but move on. Be honest to your partners! If they express disgust or hate towards you then they are simply ignorant and do not deserve you. Honestly, you should look at herpes as a blessing, because those that accept you with it prove that they really do care about you.
this disease is no fun i feel gross all the damn time and i feel sick to my stomache knowing i have this i have no idea how to cope with this problem its hard if anyone and i mean anyone has ideas to help deal with this and yes im a male that has HSV-2 not fucking fun at it hurts and makes me cry alot yes i am not going to lie i get majorly depressed about this and very upset i feel i cant be happy i mean my gf knows and still wants to be with me which makes me beyond happy and greatful but i still dont think ill ever feel normal again getting blisters and scabs on your dick is super unpleasent i feel for anyone that has this and i know now im really not alone but damn sure makes you feel like so please anyone has tips please email me at vater_unser2000@yahoo.com
Obviously you should go to a Doc if you have any symptoms…the sooner the better…I started having symptoms Sunday…just started out as some little bumps I didnt think anything of…Monday there was more n they started to hurt a little…Tuesday they started to look like a nic from shaving…Wednesday I had some blisters…Thursday some blisters had gotten bigger others had broken…Friday they were pretty much sores about the size of a nickle…got tested thursday n drilled the Doc with questions…so hopefully this will help some of you with questions…first of all you can have herpes all of your life and never have the whole out break with sores n bumps n what not…humans are constantly shedding skin every where on our bodies and you can still pass it onto someone with out the sores etc…its just a matter of our skin shedding…you can have it for years also with out an outbreak n then on pops up but in the years before that you can still pass it on…it just depends on the person…its different for everyone…socondly there are 2 types of herpes…type one is like a cold sore you would get on your mouth (which is what it is)…its not as bad as type 2 in my opinion…type 1 is generaly on the mouth…but if someone has it on there mouth and they perform oral on you you can get it in the down there area…also from kissing…type 2 is what I have…which I pretty much explained above…if someone were to perform oral on me during an outbreak then they could get it on there mouth…they could also get it the vaginal way also…thirdly…how u can and cant get it…it is very important so wash your hands of you touch the infected area and to not touch your face…just for transfer precautions…using a condom does not protect you from herpes…condoms cover a small area…as an example if a woman were to have an out break and it was on external areas the man coulds get it on his testicals…if a man has it on his testicals and has an outbreak the woman could get it from that also…condoms do not cover those areas…keep in mind that outbreaks are not always visible…I had a major concern…my bf has a 6 year old daughter…she likes to kiss my face (my out break is in the vaginal area) and before this week I had no clue about anything that had to do with any std…so I wanted to know if by her kissing my face if she would be in any danger of anything (worst nightmare)…answer is no…reason being is washing hands…VERY IMPORTANT…WASH YOUR HANDS…even if your not sure you touched the area n you were just close to it…be precautions n WASH…and as far as having kids of my own goes…you can have kids with out them having it…its simple…if you feel you going to have an out break tell the doc ahead of time…they will do a sea section…also you can get herpes in other places than genitals and your mouth…it can be any where…and if you think you might have it and want to use some anti-bacterial body wash…DONT…its best to use the most basic soap you can find…nothing with perfumes n that not…dont rub any ointments on it unless perscribed by a doc…and some helpful tips to deal with the pain…it may burn the sores if you get urine on them…just make a little funnel out of foil…instead of using a towel to dry after a shower try a hair dryer on low (the cooler the air the better)…try taking tylenol (what Ive been doing) or something with an inflamatory…wear loose clothes to prevent rubbing…granny panties suck but they help…anyways…hope some of this is helpful to someone out there…n just some info about me (kind of an upper and a downer)…Im 20 years old…never thought this would happen to me so young…I havent been with my bf very long but he has been amaizingly supportive and caring about this…I wasnt sure he was going to stick around because of this but hes in it for the long haul n was very understanding about it…was one of the scariest things bringing this up to him…neither of us are trying to place blame because there is no way of knowing who gave it to who unless by a miracle he turns out to be negative for it…and for those of you that are single and have this theres are dating sites for people with it…but keep in mind that if you have one type you can still get the other…I wouldnt with this on my worst enemy but dont freak yourself out by pictures you may see on the internet of herpes…the first out break usually lasts 14 to 20 days…and after that the outbreaks usually happen less often and are not as bad as the initial one and are not as long…meds can shorten it to 4 or 5 days long outbreaks…and your out breaks can be years apart or less…just depends on how your body reacts to it…everyone is different…best wishes to all of you
I’ve found that when I get a bad outbreak putting aloe vera gel with lidocaine really helps. It cools and numbs it at the same time. I don’t think it will make it go away any faster but it makes it easier to live with especially after you pee. Also I have found that if you put peroxide on the sores it helps them to fade faster…although it does burn. I can’t afford the medicine so this is what I do.
i’ve been in a relationship with my gf for 2 years and a week ago i found a small red spot on the top of my penis (no pus) i’ve took some bacterial cream for a few days (as the doc says it was probably just a spot. nothing happened! i went back and told me to take another cream. (antiviral) it started to die down and scab over and now more little red marks are popping up over the top of my penis… am i about to have an outbreak? is the cream spreading it?
no pain at all or any flu like symptoms..
i had a swab test but the doc just told me it could take 4 weeks.. Im going back tomorrow for a blood test as it will speed up the process.
he thinks it’s HSV-1/2… WTF man!!
has she given it to me? did i already have it?
this sucks!!!!!
Just had my first outbreak starting 9 days ago and I don’t know when it will clear up- No fever, chills, headache or any other flu sympoms… Just a lot of irritation in the genital area and a few small blisters. The doc said that I was lucky because my case is mild (it doesn’t feel mild!) and because at least I know I have it.
I don’t know who I got it from, everything I’ve read says 2-20 days after contact you will start to have symptoms… I have a feeling that it was my friend but I guess it really could have been anyone in the past two months.
Mostly, I’m terrified of telling my “boyfriend,” I put that in quotes because he lives far away and I only see him once in a while. But considering he could have given it to me, that we have been tested together before, and that I know how much he cares about me- what’s the risk?
This sucks. This sucks so much, on so many levels; but it’s encouraging me to lead a healthier life, to be honest with my partners, and honest with myself. Half of me thinks this is the end of the world, the other half knows that there are worse things in life.
Good luck to all of us. Will they find a cure? I’m keeping my fingers crossed! But until then, natural remedies like Olive Leaf extract and Echinacea have been proven to combat the herpes virus, build up immunity, and prevent outbreaks!
well i don have it but i just recently found out my gf has it…she felt lik it was the end of the world and i would leave her BUT i love her ass so much that herpes doesnt matter we just have to me cautious about sex gotta be aware of her body when the outbreak comes but sex dont really matter to me all i want is her so….. i told her everythings go be alright im not going anywhere (life does go on)and im glad she told me because it would of been totally different if i would of found out the hard way..so keep it real wit the ones u cuz as much as u love and care for them they might feel the same way i kno i do…god bless!!
Hello all. So Im 26 and have gotten cold sores atleast once a year since like 13. Everytime I had one I was careful not to share anything with anyone. One day last year my boyfriend and I were kissing then he gave me oral. The next day o noticed a cold sore! Well a few days later I got a outbreak on my penis. It wasnt bad nd went away on a week or less. A few months later it got bad! I got a cold sore, swollen lips, swollen cut bleeding gums, all
Hello. I started getting cold sores at 13. At 26 I was kissing my bf and he gave me oral. Next day I got another cold sore and a few days later a break out on my penis. This healed in a week. A few months later I got the worst brak out ever fever, cough, sore throat, cold sores 3, sores down stairs, my mouth gums nd tounge all cut open, bloody nose, and skin lessons!!!! Omg. Went to the doc got teasted and it was hsv1 NOT 2?? I never heard 1 can be down there but it was. It happened again this week nd I had to go to an infectious deseies doctor. My reg doc says hsv1 on my whole body. I think she’s dumb. Specialist said he had no clue and took a biopsy of my mouth but it was not hsv. In the end I’m scared crapless. I don’t just get cold sores on lips or sores on gentials I get a full body virus. Anyone else get this before?
So 2 weeks ago I went to the clinic just to get a check up the last time I got checked was in November. The doctor I seen told me I could call and get my results if I wanted to 2 days after the test and she would send me the results in the mail so I called a few days after my test and they said I have it they didn’t tell me what type but when I got the results in the mail it didn’t say nothing about the viruses on the results I don’t think I have had any outbreaks if anyone knows what kinda things I should prepare myself for is it possible for the test to be wrong? What’s the difference between 1&2 and can u spread this to ur kids? I have a 2 year old amd I am scared he is going too get it? Please help me
a year ago i had sex with a boy i was told had the virus i haven had a outbreak i haven had any symptoms after him i had sex with two other guys one is now my boyfriend and the other was o one night stand and he has a baby mama and he has not mentioned at my boyfriend has not had any symptoms and its been almost 5 months i just took my test the other day and im worried pick I know God is not pleased with me cause i should not worry is there a chance that i dont have it. please help me.
I’ve suspected that I had HSV but was never really sure until recently. For the last two yrs I’ve been married and I have infected him he doesn’t know and I’m so afraid to tell him. We are in the middle separating and I don’t want to tell him because I don’t want him to think this is and attempt to keep him from leaving me. What should I do ?
i just found out i had it and i cried so much the first two days. I didnt know how to react ive had outbreaks before but for a year i didnt go to a doctor i thought that it could have been ingrown hairs or something. The first outbreak i had was crazy it started on one side of my vagina and when it burst the infection went to the other side soo i had them all over my vagina. The second outbreak i had all i did was put neosporin and a bandage and thats it. I figured that if it burst the bandage would help by not letting it spread to the other side. Its worked every time since. well i ended up going to two different doctors last year and they told me not to worry that i didnt have anything. since then ive only gotten two outbreaks and recently i got a tiny bump last saturday it itched and hurt like crazy so i went to the doctor on monday, by this time the bump had swollen it was huge i couldn’t even walk i had to put a bandage to keep it from infecting the other side. Well the doctor just looked at it and right away said it was herpes my heart sunk. i felt so bad i have never cheated on my boyfriends, but the first guy i was ever with cheated on me with more than 5 girls during our 4 years of being together. He says that it wasn’t him because his current girlfriend is about to have a baby and he says that the doctors would have told her something if she had it. My other ex boyfriend says that he had gotten tested before being with me and he says that he didnt have anything. The first time i ever had anything was a couple of days after being with him without a condom so i dont know if it was him who infected me or my first ex. My current boyfriend just got tested and it turns out that he has it, he was a virgin soo he knows that i gave it to him. Now he is pissed because he had told me to get checked last year and i was so scared i didnt go. I trusted the doctors that told me it was nothing, and i knew i should have gotten another opinion but i was scared that maybe i would have something so i ignored and i didnt go. Now he is mad he says that he still loves me and that he will be with me but it feels like he is only with me because he has it too. he had proposed last october i really love him but when he found out i had it he didnt know what to do. i asked him what he would do if he didnt have it and he said he didnt know. we were talking today and pretty much if he would of found out earlier that i had herpes he wouldn’t of been with me. So now i dont know what to do he says he loves me but it feels fake after knowing that he wouldn’t have been with me from the start. i mean i get it he didn’t want to get infected but it really hurts knowing that my fiance would of left me if he knew. I can deal with having herpes i hate it and it sucks but i know its now the end of the world, but what really really hurts is knowing that my fiance wouldn’t of been with me right now he i would have gotten tested earlier. now i dont know if we should still be together or not im so confused and i cant stop crying.
hi um so scared, im 18 and i’m expiriencing flu like symptoms, my hurts, headaches, my throat hurts when i swallow and before i had cramps for no reason
{girl} i have all the syptoms but nothing on my genital, NOTHING it doesnt even hurt. feels completely normal 
but still i think i have cuz my bf went down on me and we both had no idea what can happen 
i feel stupid, my life is ruined, ive always been a good girl and when i do something the firt time i might end up having this. i want to tell my mom but if i tell her, she’ll hate my bf and he didnt mean none of this 
i love him.so i say i think i have but not caused by doing anything and she’s like nope u dont just wait for ur doc appointment but im scared, i feel dirty i want to tell but i dont want this to get bad cuz that how they are, ADvice please ASAP and tell me if u think i have it:(
I found out that I have genital herpes about 2 years ago. I was highly sexually active and enjoyed trying to get new partners and had trouble staying in relationships monogomously.
This is my punishment. I am in a relationship with a woman who I have been faithful to, but we fight a lot. I am a little afraid of leaving her. I want to but I am so scared of dating with this thing that I would almost rather just be alone forever.
I was the type that had great success with women liking me but I always was looking for the dirty sex and never love. now im not shure if i can ever get true love because i dont want to date somebody because of a common illness. im tough, i’ll be fine but damn…
Im 22 years old and have been avoiding herpes since 9th grade. I recently wus tested and the results came bk that in in fact have hsv2. Only problem is i never develop sores. i would compare my symptoms to that of a yeast infection. Its like a minor irritation.The only other symptoms i had were swollen lymph nodes,burning while urinating(which lasted 3 days, slight Fever, fatigue, and nerve pain from the waist down. Its wierd because i have yt to see a lesion. I wus wondering if its possible to have hsv2 and have no lesions.
I’m a male with Hsv2 for about 4 years now. My first OB was mild with little pain and burning. A few weeks later OB again, this time a bit worse and longer heeling time, 20-30 days. This repeated for two years with my OB getting worse and worse. After two years of hell they went away for 2 years. I was hopeful my body had developed a defense. I was wrong.
Friday morning, a week ago, I started feeling the tingles, by the afternoon I was fire red around my lip on my face and head of my penis. By the next day I’m burning, and hurting. What the call blisters in these forums, on me they are huge. Basically one big on on the entire top of my penis. It looks nothing like a blister, instead the skin just gets red, turns to mush, and then peels or slims off leaving a lot of strange white sticky pus and a bloody mess, very painful at this point, that last anywhere from 7-14 days before it scabs over. As the effected skin is scabbing over the red rash followed by dissolving skin progresses down the shaft. It has always stopped and receded before reaching my circumcision scar but everything above that is involved and I think it is starting to to progress inside my penis. I can not even begin to tell you how painful, demoralizing and hopeless I feel. I’m on suppuration therapy but still here I am, haven’t left the house or worn anything other the a robe 8 days. I thought this was suppose to get better, or less sever. Not for me, seem like it is getting worse……..
hi, im 18 years old and i have the herpes simplex virus. ive suffered from the blisters on your lips chin and even under my eye! it’s so embarrassing ! although ive been very depressed about my appearance from the scabs its just a very long and hard process to go through. it’s not the end of the world because many people suffer from this illness. I have been put on medication to help control my outbreaks.
Hello im 19 years old && just recently found out i have herpes i cry everday all.day i still cant believe this has happened to me during my break out i had sex with my ex boyfriend which hurts like hell cuz now he has to deal with it if he test positive ive never cheated on him which has me asking myself when did i become exposed to it my symptoms were very mild like a yeast infection then i found out what it was i feel like my life id over idk what to do anymore i just feel like ill be alone for the rest of my life but you know it is true life does go on so im trying to deal with i’ll feel alot better if my ex is tested negative gor this :’(
Hello everyone. I am 26 years old. I found out I had HSV 2 arpund may 2008. In my case, I was only with one person. I use to get these tiny blisters on my right palm of my hand. At first I thought it was nothing. I went to the local pharmacy and I asked one of the guys who worked there what could it be. He looked at it and said ohh its nothing. Looks like an allergic reaction to something n gave me hydro something over the counter. I was getting these blisters for a while. Finially may of 2008 I finially went to my doctor and got tested. When he told me I had HSV 2 I broke down in the office. Its not like I didnt know who gave it to me cause ive only bern with 1 person my entire time. I lost my Virginity at 21 and in may of 2008 I was with the same person. Anyway the doctor said its on my palm cause I came into contact with my hand with an infected penis. I said ok bit I dont have any breakouts down there. He said I was lucky cause I did tell him that I do not usr.condoms with this 1 person. At first in 2007 I did. After a yr we stopped.
my out bresks were so crazy on my palm, I gelt the itchy feeling before the outbreaks, then the blisters came. Its so bad that my right forearm sweels up to the point where I have to hide it with an ace bandage n everyone asks me what happened I would make ip a syory.. I fell or something. This happened at least once a month. Ive had about 2 breakouts down there alk this time. Not too bad but still. I just recently developed it in my mouth, down my throat. This is the worst. My throat swelled up to the point I cant breath n I’ve lost my voice. I’m still with the person who gave it to me cause he did not know he even had it because he never showed any symptoms. But when I found out I had it down my throat I cried to him.all of a sudden I got a text this morning that he feels uncomfortable with me. Once again went to thee doctors and got more meds. For those who breakout out on the outside and not the inside, I did my own little research n cg ound something out. Go to google. Look up dynamic clear. This stuff eorks wonders. Its cheap so if u cant afford the meds this will help. But I repeat extetnal only. U can put it on ur lips, vagina, penis. Anywhere but dont turn it to an injection or swallow it.
Basically its ships and comes in a plain box so no one suspects anything. When u have a breakout you would have to wait till the blisters break then apply 1 or 2 drops of dynamic clear on the infected area. If it burns its working!! It.kills the virus in that area. After using it my palm didnt break out.. At least for over a year. But I do both meds n dynamic clear just to be safe. Hope this jelps. Ill check back soon for responses.
Hey,
I’m 26. I was with my boyfriend for 7 or 8 months and he caught the virus from me. I knew I had it and was scared to tell him. Everytime I wanted to something bad was happening and I just couldn’t tell him. Well he came to me and asked if there was anything that I wanted to tell him. I could tell by the defeated look in his eyes that he had caught it from me. I felt like shit. I still do. He said he still loved me but his actions toward me changed. i felt like he hated me. We would fight physically and he would verbally assault me calling me nasty and dirty. We finally broke up and now all I can think is that I will never be happy. I will never have a family. And as soon as I tell anybody they will run. I’m a young black female and people tell peoples business and it will be impossible to be honest with anyone so I just avoid getting close to people. I won’t kill myself. But my sex life is over and that is depressing. I don’t know what to do.
Hi, I am 17 years old and I just found out that I may have herpes. My ex-boyfriend of 3 years cheated constantly on me and now I could be stuck with this for the rest of my life. I am honestly really scared about all of this and for the first 2 days I couldn’t help but cry. I have known for 4 days now, and it isn’t easy, but it is getting a lot easier to not cry over it. When my ex-boyfriend found out he had it, we were already broken up and moved on. Now the new guy in my life and the new girl is his life could have it as well. The new guy in my life took it a lot better than I thought he would. He was very upset, but understanding. We are waiting for results to come back on our test and then we are going to go from there. I have excepted that if I do have it, my life will be a lot different, and that there are a lot of people who won’t be as understanding as the new man I am lucky enough to be with, But I’m a very strong girl, I have faith, I have hope, and I know what ever happens, happened for a reason. Maybe this was Gods way of helping me get rid of my ex-boyfriend for good. Who knows? But I’ll make it through this, My man will make it through this, and So will every single one of you. Only the strong survive, and that is what we all are.
When you are loosing faith, just remember this quote:
“I never ask God to take me out of the storm.. I simply ask him to hold my hand through it. Sometimes he calms the storm, and other times he lets the storm rage and calms his child. Praise God no matter what you are going through. Because I promise, He has his hand in it somewhere.”
Stay Strong Everyone. Keep Your Head Up. If I Can Do It, So Can You.
HSV (herpes simplex virus) is currently not included in a standard panel of STD exams; in fact, the CDC recommends against it! We aim to change this. Our goal is to get legislators to include genital herpes testing alongside Chlamydia, gonorrhea, and hpv testing during annual STD exams. We need to get our legislators to put pressure on the CDC to enact this change to protect ourselves and future generations. Making genital HSV-1 and 2 a routine part of our annual STDS exams will help stop the spread of HSV.
Please sign this petition and also forward to friends and family members who know your status so they can sign as well.
http://www.petition2congress.com/4231/get-our-legislators-to-make-hsv-testing-routine-part-annual-exams/
i so know what u r feeling i am goin through the feelin of findin out and the more i get sores the more i hate i dont know what to do but we have a child together and i want to keep it together but i cant
what some off yall not seein is its not just sex that makes this chicken pop test herpes so u never really know less u know where it came from i just got ma first bump on ma lip and i swair i wanted to stab ma ma son father cuz because of his past i will never be the same again im afraid to kiss ma kids im afraid to be alone its just to much
wirus one is not bad at all most people who get cold sores in the lips has type one..i have type one i think i was born with it but i been having it since i was young…but i get mine from eating certain fruits like bananas peahes ext.ext. but type two i never had u can have syptoms that look like it but it can still be possible to have a curable tretment…and advice to all of you people let al your partners know and dont hide it…dont ruin other lifes just because someone ruined yours..
My boyfriend went down on me with a fever blister on his lip. Now I have sores down there …could this be herpes? ??
Im 16 and found out that I had gotten herpes in Novemeber, I had it for two months without knowing it bc I had went to the doctor the first time that I was hurting and itching and they told me that I just had a yeast infection, I got to reading on the internet and had read that most times doctors confues herpes and yeast infections. I took the medicine they gave me for the yeast infection everything cleared up I felt better and what not then a few weeks later I was starting to hurt and itch again so I went back to the doctor and told them what was going on and how I had read about them getting yeast infections and herpes confused so I asked them to test me. They tested me and a week later they called me in to go over the resaults and thats when they told me I had herpes. I cried forever, I was so mad at myself. I still beat myself up about it, I have no idea who I got it from, I always think why me? Why is this happening to me? What did I do to deserve this??? Im just so hurt. It still hurts me to talk about it today although I have had it for four months now. So therefore I had gotten it sometime in Aug and didnt even find out til Nov. I still have sex and I make the guy wear a condom just because I dont want them to get it, but I dont tell them ive got it. I dont want word to get out and I dont want to be called any names, because Im not “trashy” or a “whore” and Im just scared that if people find out I will never be able to live it down and no one would want to be with me or around me. this just sucks because Im soooo young. but everything happens for a reason I guess. I just wish I knew someone else who had it that I could talk to and be comfortable around.
I just found out I have herpes 2. I was wondering could I of got it from my ex three years ago. My bf of three years says he never cheated n he was a virgin so I’m wondering could I of got this from my ex three years ago and just now getting an outbreak. doctors are saying someone cheated but u don’t think so. I have been reading up on it n some people say they didn’t know until way later. Tell me what u think. I keep saying why me. I did everything right I thought. I waited until I was 21 and I’m not a slut. It makes u feel like a slut.
I have had HSV 1 and 2 for about 15 years. I haven’t had a cold sore since my first outbreak at 17, and I guess as HSV 2 goes, I’ve been lucky. My outbreaks are so rare that I even forget that I have it – until I get an outbreak, of course.
This is an emotionally devastating condition. Absolutely. I’ve gone through periods of time when I’ve thought that no one would want me, when I’ve thought that I would never have sex again, and when I’ve thought that I would never have children, etc, etc. I feel for all of you who currently feel that way, because it is so natural to feel that way – especially when you currently have blisters in the most sensitive of areas. But as I’ve had this condition for 17 years, I can tell you that I’ve had a healthy sex life thus far and HSV has not completely gotten in the way of my sexual expression.
When I started dating my last boyfriend, he knew that I had HSV, and he was still willing to love me and have sex with me – and hey, he even wanted me to have his babies. Before we became sexually active, we both got tested and it turns out he had been positive and never knew it. Horrah!
Keep this in mind: about eighty percent of the population has HSV 1. Yup, everyone and their mom has it. And about twenty percent of the population has HSV 2. About 1 in 4. So if people try to get all high and mighty about their non-positive status they can hold it until they get tested. If they still come off as holier than thou, then ask them to count up all the people they’ve slept with, divide it by four, and that’s how many time’s they’ve been exposed to the virus. Done and done.
No need to feel like Jezabell or Sodom and Gamora. It’s common and you’re not alone.
Also keep this in mind: no one wants this. It’s not the end of the world, but lets do the world a solid and keep transmissions rates to a low. This means no sex during out breaks, safer sex in between, and full disclosure to our partners. It is not fun disclosing. But let’s compare these two conversations:
1) “Baby, I have something to tell you. I have occasional outbreaks, and what that means is that when I have an outbreak, you’re going to get a whole lot of blow jobs, and when I don’t we just have to be careful. But I love you and I want to have sex with you, so I hope that we can continue seeing each other.”
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2) “Oh shoot. I was hoping you wouldn’t get it. I knew I had it, but I was afraid to tell you because then you wouldn’t want to be with me, and now you have an incurable skin condition just because I was too cowardly to tell you and protect you.”
I can tell you from experience that the first conversation is much more ideal. That doesn’t mean that I am not fearful of disclosing. I am currently building my courage to inform my current love interest of my vaginal status. It is incredibly hard because I totally dig the guy, probably more than I’ve ever dug anyone, and I want to have sex with him, and I want him to be with me. That’s what makes it so hard. But hey, I care about the guy, so end of story.
I should probably mention how I became exposed to HSV 2. A cute guy in high school was calling me, and flirting with me, and wanting to hang out with me. I was flattered. I was still a virgin, and we had a heavy make out session, but he kept finding ways to rub his slang against my nanny. About a week later, I thought I had a mosquito bite on my nanny – how odd, I thought. Upon hearing of our courtship, one of the girls at school tried to warn me of this scoundrel’s ways, but it was too late. Earlier that year, he had become infected, and now, in bitterness, he was intentionally trying to infect as many girls as he could. I was devastated. Talk about adding insult to injury. I was burned by a man and then burned in very sensitive areas for the rest of my life. I should still try to turn this guy into the CDC – wonder if there is a statute of limitation? For the record, he is six feet two with blond hair and blue eyes, his name is Mike, and he comes from the Valley. If I could remember his last name, it would be all over this page! I understand that accidents happen, but this was malicious and intentional and just plain uncool.
I think that it is better to be responsible and tell our partners. After all, I don’t want this guy who I totally dig to one day think of me the way that I think of Mike. (I sound so brave right now, lets see how I’m doing in about two hours!)
Here are some more helpful things to keep in mind: prevention and treatment. This is not a physically pleasant condition. It hurts! It makes me walk funny! It makes me feel like my body is falling apart! It hurts when I pee!
So how to avoid it? I was recently at an acupuncturist seeking treatment. She said that now, after the holidays, is when she sees most of her clients who have outbreaks. Any guesses why? Booze, sweets, carbs, family, parities, stress. For me it’s the first three. In chinese medicine, according to my practitioner, an over indulgence in the sugars can trigger an outbreak. So guess who’s going on an Adkins/South Beach/ anti-candida diet? Me! Forever. What’s more worth it: A chicken Mc Nugget and a soda or a clean, healthy va-jay-jay? Done and done.
I can also recommend keeping a stash of meds on hand. The earlier you take it, the better and sometimes realizing that you have an outbreak, making an appointment, waiting for the appointment, picking up the meds, and everything else takes way too much time, and seriously, would you rather have a 5 day outbreak or a 12 day? The choice is yours, my friend, but I try to stock up on antivirals. My current insurance covers generic. Before I had insurance, I would make a visit to Planned Parent Hood – I had no idea at that time that county insurance assistance even existed, but that’s an option too. If you go to college, you can see your local campus office and they can prescribe the same stuff – for free!
I’m currently taking a bunch of supplements to prevent and aid in the healing of the outbreaks. I’m a holistic junkie, and if it can curb my break outs and make my skin young and fresh looking in the process, I don’t see why not.
The most recent self treatment that I found was on the internet. I was days into the suffering of a swollen blister that just seemed to be getting bigger. Desperate, I found someone on the internet who claimed that green tea was a personal cure. Additionally, this person used the left over tea bags as a topical treatment. Just put the wet tea bag onto the blister and let it seep there. Of course if it’s on the internet, it must be true, so I tried it. Four cups of green tea later, and after four tea bag treatments to the affected area, that sucker popped, and went down, and I can’t even feel that I’ve had an outbreak. It’s been less than 24 hours since I’ve been using the green tea. I have to say that the tea bag was incredibly soothing and that it seemed to have aided in my recovery was amazing. Regardless of whether green tea is a herpes treatment or not, I should probably be drinking it anyway for its numerous other health benefits.
To sum up my HSV 2 novel-esqe response, I would like to recap on the facts I’ve presented:
1) HSV 2 sucks, but you’ll live
2) other people have it too (including those who you have been and may become intimate with)
3) take care to protect your partner and be honest with him/her
4) take care of your body
If you are still feeling depressed and bad about yourself, here’s a little activity that sometimes lifts my spirits a bit. Walk into a crowded establishment. It could be a bar, the mall, a grocery store, whatever. Take a head count of all of the people there. Divide that number by four – statistically, that many people have genital herpes too. This can help you feel less alone.
One last thing. I have had HSV 1 and 2 for a long time. In my experience, I’ve learned that people will cop to HSV 1 – practically everyone and their mom has it, so there’s not a huge shame factor. I hear people all the time say things like, “Ugh, I got another cold sore,” and it’s not the end of the world. But in my experience, no one wants to admit to having HSV 2. When’s the last time you heard someone walk into the office and say, “Ugh, I have another genital lesion!” For some reason, there is a bigger shame factor. People try to hide it. And people lie about it. They don’t talk about it amongst friends. They try not to share it with partners. If caught, they try to deny it. They might try to push the blame onto someone else. This whole stigma is not cool. Practically everyone I know has had sex, but for some reason, I’m supposed to feel like a whore. I don’t think so. What I’m getting at, is that I’m not going to feel bad, I’m not going to feel like a whore, and I’m not going to be embarrassed over a skin virus that a quarter of the population already has but won’t admit to.
I feel for a lot of you…for over 2 years ive noticed small bumps on my penis… Ive been with 4 girls in 2 years and i always got cheked by multiple doctors (multiple times in the same month) sometimes….yes i was that paranoid… Often doctors discouraged herpes they said i had Perlie Penile Papules… I believed that for a year. Now im 19 years old…and was diagnosed with HSV2 only…because i.didnt know herpes testing wasnt standard on std checkups. Now reaching a year with a girl i been faithfull to it was hard for me to tell her i expected her to leave with my unborn child…sadly i was called while i took her out to brekest…. Oh we were celebrating hearing our babys heart beat for the first time(bummer to a good day huh) fortunately i was blessed she doesnt care she said she loves me and wants to pursue our relationship still… She said now we just need to be safe for our kids sake. Now my OB have been worse shes even.asked to see what it looks like during an outbreak so i showed her and even after seeing it she still doesnt care… She said a little skin virus wont get rid of her…. Love can stilk exists and sex just be sure to care for your parner no sex if you have an outbreak…
I am so glad I found this site. Reading what some of you have to say about this disease has made me feel a lot more at ease. I Love everything “Herpes Heroine” had to say. Thank you for the tips on dealing with this and thank you about the tea bag tips….I actually got an outbreak on top of my hand and its so embarrassing!!so good thing I had bought green tea. I shall start this ASAP!thank you;-)
Jessica: Yes you could have had it for years. My doctor told me (two of them) that its possible to have contracted it as a baby by someone with it touching your skin. It may just take a long time to have it’s first outbreak. I am very fortunate and only get a small rash on my one buttock that looks and feels like a raspberry. I always have a round of meds on hand and start them at the first sign, which is usually itchyness. I have also discovered that it is when I am under a great deal of stress that I get an outbreak. My partner knows and is very understanding. We usually just abstain for the duration or I at least can just cover my sore up as it is relatively small and quite far up on my buttock. Hope this helps you.
OK, so I’ve read these posts. I recently went to have my yearly checkup and mentioned that I had a really bad cold sore HSV1 outbreak. the worse I’ve ever had. Got tested and I have both 1 and 2. Suicidal. Most definitely. I have never, ever, had a break out down under. I would have known that. I have had many yeast infections and (from what I read) could have been Herpes!!!! Are the STD tests different for each desease? I will ask for a retest since I supposedly had genital warts 20+ years ago and have never had an outbreak. And it wasn’t mentioned when I got this test back. About 10 years ago, the Red Cross said I had Hepatitis B and when they retested I didn’t. I would rather die than tell my boyfriend. Even though he has HSV 1 and we both have had other partners, I just can’t do it.
I have the worst of luck… I had only been with one man for three years,broke up… Then a couple weeks later in was tookin advantage of while sleeping(past out drunk)! I am a very shy person so just the thought of telling any one is terrifying! Had a really really bad outbreak, mum tells me she only had one outbreak in her whole life… But not for me. Almost every month I have a breakout! Bad ones too. I went into really bad depression, thinking my world was over, thinking that I wouldn’t be able to have another baby.. But I have just recently found out I can still deliver a baby safely
. Now I’m back with my x.. I mean I called him the day I found out and told him cus he was the only one I trusted,… (then I found out he told his friend!) but he thinks as long as we’re together it shouldn’t matter:) but he doesn’t take it as serious as me. I tell him to be safer but he refuses to..? He just don’t care if he gets it to. But If he gets it idk what I would do. I would never be able to forgive my self. I love him to much for him to have to experience this….
Yea im goin thru it to.. Ugh jus lst week I found out I hd hsv1 on my genitals smh I guess my bf hd a cold sore n wen he gv me oral sex.thts hw I got it smh … It dont hurt n it ddnt as bad as I though it would .. It is uncomfortable n scary cuz im not sure how to clean my self or if I could infect my whole body if I take a bath ..I dnt knw how to react im 22 weeks pregnant n this is my 1st ob tht I knw of .. Its been a week n im healin up pretty fast .. I jus stay prayerful n content ..it is wht it is.. I wish it wasnt doe
Ive had herpes for about 3 years now and I’ve had unprotected sex but I never spreaded it and now I’m with a new partner and we had sex yesterday and I got an outbreak today but I didn’t have any signs yesterday so now I don’t know what to feel because he hasn’t said anything about symptoms but now its hard to talk to him and he’s wondering what’s wrong…..I really pray I didn’t give it to him and we have been having sex for a couple years on and off and hes never mentioned anything about symptoms….do u think he can get it if I didn’t have a outbreak that day but got one the next day? And how long would it take for him to get symptoms if he does???
@hurt bad… I think it is VERY selfish of you to have known for 3 years, and not tell someone before being intimate with them. That is malicious and now u want to “pray” that u didn’t give it to him? Anyway, now that I’ve gotten that out… I just found out yesterday that I have herpes simplex 2. Here’s my story: I’m married, and have been for a couple of years. I suffer often with yeast and bacterial infections (or so I thought). About a week ago, I developed a bump. The next day it was a few more, but still in the same area. I began to worry, and confronted my husband thinking he had cheated, as I had never experienced anything like this before. He assured me that he hadn’t. I already had a doctors appt set with my obgyn because I am expecting. When we went to the doctor, I expressed my concern and let her look at it. She did testing and it hasn’t been confirmed through the lab yet, but she was pretty sure that its Herpes. I was DEVASTATED! My main concern is my unborn child. On this same day, my husband got tested. Since I had suffered with the “yeast” so much in the past, he had been tested last year as well because although we are married that was when we stopped using condoms and the infections started occuring even more frequently. (I didn’t want to get pregnant and couldn’t remember to take the pill) Back then, I was told that my body may have been rejecting his natural bacteria. Anyway, he hasn’t gotten his results from the test yesterday… but did get the hard copy of his results from last time. He was positive for Type 1… but when they called in his results initially (last year) they told him he was good and had nothing to be concerned about! I’m assuming that his Type 1 turned into my Type 2 during oral sex… BUT, I could be wrong. The virus can lie dormant for YEARS! My frequent infections that were being treated as yeast and bacteria could have actually been an outbreak! I cried all day yesterday… and all night. I’ve googled what seems to be EVERYTHING related to Herpes. Now, I’m trying my hardest to cope. It’s an awful feeling knowing that you have something you can’t get rid of but there should be comfort in knowing that it could ALWAYS be worse. I’ve realized that this is NOT a death sentence. I plan on continuing to live, just with a few modifications. Reading the comments posted helped me to feel better. BUT, anyone that is aware that they have the virus, don’t jeopardize anyone else because of your own selfish desires. I’m still awaiting my “official” results… but I’m not in denial, and I’m learning to cope.
I’m so tired of being itchy!!
I’m 25 now, I met a girl about 5 years ago. I knew she slept with alot of guys but i didnt care, i loved her. We were in a relationship for about a year and we broke up for about 4 years. Anyway, I contacted her on FB about 2 weeks ago and she agreed to “hang out” with me for the day, and we had sex in a hotel room. Friday-sex Monday-sores all over my penis and pubic region Wednesday-pus filled sores Thursday-swollen, burning pus filled sores Friday-Sunday sores with a hole in them that hurt like hell, This Monday they actually started scabbing over and now my stomach is constantly hurting and when i pee it burns like hell and the stream goes all over the place(like im shaking my penis) but i’m not…anyway, i still have scabs all over my once beautiful genital region. I am devastated, depressed, and angry. How can you not know you have this disease and then give it to somebody and not even care…i called her, and she doesnt even want anything to do with me. I guess i’ll be alone forever because this is just so embarassing. My life is over.
Hi Im a 36 yr. old female who tested positive for hsv type 1 genital on Monday. I have been with the same guy for almost 2 yrs. We are both very faithful and we both were tested for stds before we were sexually active with eachother. We both were given a clean bill of health! Well about 3 weeks ago I woke up with a lil red bump on my vagina and it was very itchy. Ok well I figured it was from shaving. About a week later I had a lil cut that looked like a lesion. I started to feel very ill fever chills body aches swollen glands just not myself! I went to the dr and told him my symptoms. He did an exam and said it didnt look like herpes but also did a blood test. He called the next day and said I was good I tested negative and said he would call back Monday with the culture of the lesion I had. I was pretty happy and thought I was good. I had a great weekend but still I couldnt stop thinking about wtf this was. I told my bf we couldnt have sex till I got the culture results back. He was fine with that. So monday the dr called and said to come in that I had tested positive. I lost it. I layed on the floor and cried hysterically!!! I thought how the hell did I get this. My bf was no help he just went outside. I thought to myself he had to have given me this because I had only been with 1 other guy and that was my ex husband of 12 yrs and he dont have anything. I come to my senses and I knew my bf has never cheated and never would! Ok so we went to the drs and the dr said I had gotten this type of herpes from oral. He then asked if my bf ever got cold sores. Yes he does and often. He says this is how I had gotten them. We had no clue u could get herpes this way. Never even thought of it. So I just want every1 to know YES u can!! Im devastated!! I now have a cold sore on my upper lip which I have never had one in my life. I feel very alone and dont wanna tell any1 I know. My bf wont talk about it and says I over react about everything. He thinks its no big deal. He has not hugged or kissed me since Monday I feel like hes afraid of me now. Maybe its just me over reacting again but to me this is a big deal. I was put on zovirax. Today is only the 3rd day of being on it but I still dont feel any better and I have a new lesion. This is 3 weeks of an outbreak now. Do any of u have any suggestions or thoughts on why this is taking so long to heal. Maybe stress is making it worse?? Dont get me wrong its not a horrible outbreak compared to the ones of seen on the net but its there. Any info would help!! TY
Im a 19 year old girl that just found out i had herpes today. i been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years now and we always have unprotected sex, we had caught chlamydia once before but that was cureable, after that we both got checked and we were clean. Last week was the last time i had sex, then i realized i had a bladder infection, the next day i had some irritation in my anus area…ive done some reseach and found nothing..a couple days past and it started looking like my anus been chewed up..i had blisters and it hurt when i wiped myself, then i start to cry…i felt dirty and was terrified to tell my boyfriend…I seen the doctor, took plenty of test i was told even though the text is negative, it could be a false negative,”if its gonna be false then upgrade your damn test” anywho…i feel like my life is over..me and my boyfriend are going back and forth about who gave it to who, I personally believe he gave it to me, he had an ex girlfriend that had it but he said he used a condom..he also claimed it broke while they was hving sex and he stopped..My doctor told me that men herpes does not show as bad as women, she said one little sore can be the cause of herpes..MY ONLY QUESTION IS WHY ME????
Sorry,typo…I think i may have herpes as well….i git tested Dec 2nd for everything u could think of and it came out negative…..since then I’ve only had sex wit my ex and my current boyfriend… BOTH wore condoms……around my period I noticed that the tampon string irritanted my left labia minora on the inside…Wen i touched it it stung alittle like cuts were there but i figured it was irritation….after a few days it lookes like the little cuts had gotten bigger sort of or maybe infected because I’ve found out I had 2 bartholin abcesses and now a cyst (which I tried to tell the e.r doctor but he didn’t really take heed because my glands had went from nasty swollen dark red spotty and sore to regular healthy pink) by the way I had been taking 2-3 sits baths a day so my abcess would drain…..well my sores have went from little cuts to open ulcers…Dnt really look that bad just hurts like hell to pee and I’m also having the symptoms from my waist on down……nerve endings in buttocks and thigh area hurting so bad I cnt walk or really move,skin is sensitive to touch and coldness feet r sensitive as well……..Idk Wat to think i won’t get my result till Monday or tuesday aaannnnd on top of that I just found out I have bacterial vaginosis…lucky me
Okay so I had sex with three different girls the past weekend.. And my penise started having problems like red bumps all over them so I went to the doctor to be inspected and I got gonorrhea not a bad stage of it but it’s what the said I had, I got treated and it’s slowly curing but now my penis has very small pin sized bombs with a black head on them theirs a few on the head and a few around the shaft area and maybe five or six on my pubic area where I’ve shaved. What is this I’m beyond scared any tips or information based on this oh and I was sick for a day like I had the flu I was coughing and spitting up mucus. Help would be nice
I am 32 years old and started getting cold sores last year….I was so upset the first time I got one, I cried all day! My husband has never had one, and I have no reason to think he has cheated on me. But it is still just an awful experience…especially just *wondering* where this nasty thing came from…
The first time I got one on my lip, a few days before the outbreak I felt like I was getting sick…my throat was white and sore…then my gums started feeling raw (I thought I just ate too many potato chips and my gums got raw from that…)but then I looked really closely in the mirror and I had all of these little white sores on my gums! The inside of my mouth was sooo sore for, like, 3 days–I couldn’t eat anything but soup! My gums were swollen, like swelling almost over my teeth. Then my tongue started getting sores too…It was so crazy.
Then, of course, the cold sore on my lip appeared…Then another little one beside it. I feel so bad for anyone who has this virus. It is so embarrassing, working in a job where I see people all the time, and worrying about getting cold sores on my face!!
The good news is, I’ve been taking L-Lysine every day now, and over the past year, I’ve maybe had 7 or 8 outbreaks–but only 3 cold sores on my lip. I tend to get the sores on my tongue more than my lip (and, yes, they are herpes-related, not canker sores! Cause they are the same sores I got during my initial outbreak…and in the same place!). I definitely can’t drink coffee anymore or eat a lot of sugar, or this is when I notice the outbreaks occurring.
If I feel a cold sore coming on my lip (which, my lip feels itchy and I want to scratch it with my teeth–and my face tingles in weird spots-), I put a q-tip with acetone on it! For, like, 30-40 seconds, a few times a day. This dries up your lip and the sore will not form like it would otherwise…it’s barely noticeable compared to if you do nothing! You just have to watch your lip for the peeling skin, but that’s better than a bloody, yellow, scabby sore!!
I agree with other posters, this is not the end of the world even though it really SUCKS!!!! I’m still pissed off that I don’t know how I got this virus…but, all I can do now is deal with it. I don’t kiss my husband OR definitely not put my mouth near his genitals when I have an outbreak. Good luck to everyone out there dealing with Herpes..
I found out that I had herpes last Thursday, I only had one partner and he was messing with other females and he was still messing with his baby mom, and I Was having unprotected sex with him and didnt think of all the possibilities of what could have happened, and lately I been moving too fast with my life and all my friends been telling me too slow down but by me being hard headed ididnt listen and I’m only 17 and I wanted to go to the military and now I can’t even go because of this disease and I don’t even no I how to tell him he gave me herpes because He is crazy but I don’t want nothing to do with him but I really like him but it’s just messed up that he didn’t tell me he had herpes I mean I am a understanding person? Imean God is just punishing me for som many things and it’s like everything coming back at me, it sucks man, but I still have faith in god and I am a strong young lady I can get thru life with thi, it’s just a trial in my life that I will have to deal with, it’s going to slow my life down I guess!!! I just learned the hard way I guess…I wish I could talk about this with someone I just can’t trust nobody, and I wouldn’t want my friends to judge me
Im so confused none of this makes senss to me. So, i got my first outbreak apprently. But the thing is my fiance and i were tested and we both have been clean. Not to mention i just had my daughter 2months ago…. I went to my OBGYN 2weeks ago amd he told me i healed great so me and my fiance had sex finally with condoms and i was extremely sensitive to them so he took it off….week latrr i got a fever and as the days went by i got my first outbreak. My OB said it was recent that i was just exposed to thr virus so he pretty much was saying my fiance gave it to me but hes never had an outbreak ever i just dont understand. I get my result this friday cuz he tested one of the blisters, but hes most certain it is herpes. It really sucks not knwing how i got i mean wouldnt he have had an outbreak to? Or could i have had while pregnant even though they tested
Whoops i accidently hit he submit……….but they tested me for everything and i neber had an outbreak or anything while i was pregant they would have told me if i had the virus from the bloos results right? And he was clean to cuz he got tested…my OB said my baby should be fine amd i hope she really is. But still i have so many questions and very little answers. My fiance says we just gotta deal with it he comforted me and he said if u have it i have it so he seems to be taking it prettt well better then me anyway. But i knw he wouldnt cheat on me thats just not likehim…so how were we exposed to the virus how was he exposed or how was i exposed ughhh its just soo confusing