Herpes Treatment is a very contraversial subject. People from all walks of life chime in constantly to give their “expert” opinions. A lot of people think that Herpes can spell the end of one’s social life. Some people who have contracted the illness despair and suffer silently, believing there’s nothing they can do to lead normal lives again.
This mentality is boosted by popular media, where herpes is often portrayed as something to laugh at. However, you should realize that there are treatments for herpes available to those who seek them. What are the objectives of these treatments?
Herpes Treatment – Alleviate symptoms
Alleviate symptoms – the main reason why people get treatment for herpes is the fact that the symptoms can be pretty severe. Using drugs can reduce the pain significantly and reduce the sores visibly. The first breakout of herpes is often the most painful and most prolonged. Treatment can help a person recover from this.
Speed Up Recovery
Another reason for getting treatment would be to help speed up the recovery time. As said before, an initial outbreak of herpes can be prolonged, and people seek treatment t o help them cut the time that they suffer the symptoms of herpes. By speeding up recovery, treatment for herpes helps a person live a more normal lifestyle.
Suppress symptoms
There are also certain treatment regimens designed to totally suppress the symptoms. Ideally, the daily treatment will prevent symptoms from ever showing up. Sure, the disease will always be there –it isn’t curable, after all- but treatment will help a person get the next best thing to being cured.
These herpes treatment goals are only accomplished if you know which treatments to use and how to use those treatments properly. You should look into the various treatment options and consult a physician to see which one works best for you.
Remember that you don’t have to suffer through the symptoms of herpes. With the right treatment for herpes, you can step away from the fear and start getting your life back. All you need to do now is decide to take control and get all the help you can. In the battle against herpes, you are not alone.
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i found out some months ago i have herpes. i felt so bad i had that cold symphtoms and i felt really bad for like 2 weeks. i got really depressed but this was just because ignorance, i’ve been reading a lot about it and right now i feel waaaay better.
i also told my boyfriend, unless it wasn’t easy. he was so kind with me, he supports and understands how i feel. also he said that is no reason to leave me. IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE HONEST especially if its about someone you care about.
take it easy, aftes a few outbreaks your gonna get the hang of it and you’ll know how to treat them. but dont hesitate to see a doctor. its better to decide what to do with the information that he gives you than deciding from something you read on the internet. not everything is trustfull.
i still have a lot of questions but some stuff no one can know (not even the doctor) Because i wanted to know how often the outbreaks would be or where would them be appearing but it depends on your body, and as you know everybody is diferent.
don’t think you’ll never have sex or fall in love, if someone loves you there wont be any problems. BUT … you’ll always have to be careful with your diet, exersise, vitamins, etc etc
hope this makes you feel better i just want to cheer you up. dont feel bad with yourself. this can happen to anybody even if you’re virgin and it’s the first time having sex, it wrong when people think it just happens to whores o slutty girls.
hope this helps you.
thank you very much if you read it completely.
danielle
thank you so much for your kind words Danielle, i found out that i might have the virus, but a haven´t taken the test yet because the doctor said the results may not be accurate.. i feel so sad, i don´t know if somebody would love me and accept me again.. i´m so scared
Leeny I understand your sadness, I got the virus from a mate of 14 years, and I thought my life was over. I’m coming out of my depression over it, but I’m fearful that I’llhave to live a lonely life with out a lover or someone to share life with
I just recently found out that I have Herpes, and honestly it hurts mentally because I don’t know where to go from here with my love life. As a man who wants to have children, I’m not sure if that will ever happen or who would even want to be with me knowing what I have. One thing I do know is that I’m strong and that life is not over. Hopefully one day I may find someone that can accept me for me and be able to have a good future with that person, but only time and faith will tell.
I get a small patch on the back of my thigh, A couple days befor the out break i get muscle pain in my leg ( it only happens when i overexert myself) I got it right after i had back surgery so im thinkin i didnt get it from someone. A doctor told me it could be because i had chicken pox when i was a kid, supposedly the virus goes dormant but can come back when your body has some thing traumatic happen. Anyways if i let my leg rest when i feel the muscle pain coming than i usually dont have an out break, but sometimes i cant rest due to working two jobs. hope this info helps and i hope someone finds a cure soon
I havent gotten my culture or bloodwork but from what I have read here and other places, I’m pretty sure I have herpes 2 and I want to die. I didn’t need this on top of anything else, its like I’m being punished just for sake of being punished. I know who I got it from and he refuses to get tested because “he’s not a dirty person” All I can think is how much I wish I can have back the day I met him. Hell I don’t want to date, I never,ever want someone to deal with what I have. Sorry for venting Good luck to everyone else.
I agree with Naomi. I was infected one year ago. I also feel punished to let myself go only once in 6 years! I had a protected relation but the condom did not prevent the virus to infect. I feel attacked every day by this virus which destroyed all my life. I plunged in a deep depression. I cry every day, I tremble, I have difficulty in breathe. I asked for helps near 14 indifferent doctors who swept me all of the reverse of the hand. The truth is that the government will never help research to find a cure against this disease. And worse still, this cure probably exists. But the market of the disease is much more advantageous. In spite of this of one of known as, it is impossible to have a normal life. Nobody wants to hear our suffering. One condemns us to be stigmatized and to suffer. It is said to us that we will have this disease until the the end of our life. One year later, the only idea which comforts to me is that I have at least the means of choosing the day of the end of my life. I will not live an unhappy existence in the suffering and loneliness only to financially support the pharmaceutical market by spending 1500$ per year for the antiviral ones. I do not deserve this fate. I am a good person who ever hurt the others. IT is necessary that its disease names cancer for getting helped. Herpes, is synonymous with shame, dirtiness and defect. Someone can one explain why one more seeks a cure for the hsv-1 than for the hsv-2??? Is there such an urgency to look after cold soar? I will not be there any more to know the silly answer.
I have just had a test for this, i will know friday if it is Herpes, i’m so worried, i was seperated from my hubby and we had been trying to conceive for like 8 years, so naturally after we split i met someone and was trying to have a baby again, then this happens, unfortunately my hubby and i have been sleeping together since then and now he will have it too, i’m so ashamed but i also think it sucks, all i wanted to do was have a family and we get this. I’m glad to see there are other peole out there that want kids too and have this virus, it shows that i might still be able to have my family after all. thanks guys and hope everyone feels better.
Just found out about a week or so ago i got infected. Ive known this girl for over 6 years on and off and this pretty much killed it. i hate this thing there really needs to be a cure, even with protection you can still get it. Not to mention certain people that do have it don’t tell the other person and you’re done. i told who would of been my future wife and game over. no idea what to do now.
I’m 17 years old…being persuaded by the tv commercials I decided to go get tested for everything…happy and uneased that I was negative from everything but herpes…was told that the virus had significant amounts found in my blood test but that it was to earlier to determine which type. I got my results a week before my highschool prom and graduation and lost my virginity to one person and have only been with this person for the past 3 years. Starting to believe it’s the type one which more then likely given to me through oral being performed on me or me kissing him. I’m 17 and I’m pretty sure he wasn’t destined to be with me forever but who would want to now..!?! Cure should be found…too servere of a punishment for a mistake millions make at a young age
I was married for approximately 3 yrs before I found out . My husband concealed it from me that long(not to mention the other women before me).I was suspicious of a red bump on him so I called him out on it. He told me he was afraid if he did I wouldn’t have gotten with him. What a betrayal! After 10 yrs of marriage we are divorced. Beginning a whole new life is scary enough; I have not dated yet because of the Herpes. I get one liesion and it rarely happens but still reminds me of the fact that some day I might date again and that is going to be difficult to tell someone. There are dating sites I heard ,so that might be an option for us people with the disease!? All I know, is that making peace with the fact we have it, is going to be something we all need to do to accept that there is happiness and a sex life in our futures; with that also comes the responsibility to be honest always!!!! I may have not been treated with respect but, I am sure as heck going to treat others with respect and let there be choice! I think if we define ourselves by who we are and not having Herpes, we’ll have the strenght and courage to go for all our heats desire! Best wishes to all and happy thoughts for the future
I got it too. The hard part about this is you don’t have anyone to JUST talk to. I pray and cry and yes it hurts to know that people may look down on us if they knew. but now that we have it, please, don’t give up. the most exciting thing we can think about is how we’ll get through our every day lives (be creative and love oneself) and somehow, at the end of the day we’ll know that we weren’t so bad or… sick
YOU ARE NOT ALONE…sing <3
If anyone is getting outbreaks alot I would watch out for the link to type 1 diebetes.I beleive that how I got type 1 diebetes.Doctors cant say for sure, but thats what my heart tells me,so take your meds when you have an outbreak.
I’ve had it for about 2 months now. I feel pretty much the same emotionally and mentally since I got it. I haven’t talked to anyone about it, the only people i’ve told is my doctor and my brother. I pretty much don’t want to live anymore, but yet I’m still here. I’m 21 years old. I’ve had all the troubles in the world trying to meet a girl and having a relationship. I have been lonely for a really long time, so i’ve been extremely depressed. I went out one night to the bar…didnt meet anyone of course with the depression and lack of confidence. On the way driving home drunk…I picked up a hooker for the first time. The rest is history. I’ve been telling myself everyday since then, that I’m F&@#ing stupid and what a stupid thing I did. I hate my life. How am I going to meet anyone now????? Oh great here come the tears, so pathetic…
I’m just releived that I’m not going to die, I thought it was fatal. So I’m just going to live my life and be sucessful. So what about a few cold sores? I can beat it and I wont let it ruin my life.
Bryce, don’t be too hard on yourself. I was engaged to a beautiful woman who cheated on me, contracted the illness, found out she had it, and proceeded to give it to me. We all get lonely and it could be a hooker or the person next door or whatever. I have had the illness for 13 years and although it can be difficult at times to keep a positive attitude, you can still find love. I met another beautiful girl, who also had the illness, got married, and have a wonderful family. If you take the meds and take good care of yourself it really makes a difference. Also remember that at least 2 out of 5 people have this so you are not alone by any means. Good luck and try not to beat yourself up as you can have a positive effect on many lives in the future!
Hi. I am not sure how I got the virus. I wasn’t with many at all. I was naive. I saw some innocent looking bumps down there & showed my boyfriend. He incouraged me to see a doctor. I was shocked when I was told it was herpes. I told my boyfriend & screamed & bawled all the way home. He admited to me later that he had something on his penis, but didn’t tell me. I was stunned! I was very young. I am very healthy, so I try to keep my immunity up & take care of myself. I wanted a child & have had a very healthy & beautiful boy. It is not the end! My sister revealed to me that she has it & she told her husband. He does not have it, or does not have out-breaks & he loves her no matter what! The are very very happy together & successful. YOU CAN BE TOO!
I have the virus too, And i am in the same boat as you Christine, not sure how I got it, none of my previous partners have it.. which really confuses me to how i could have got it. Ive had it for years…and never knew. .i have seen some pictures of my past with outbreaks but thought it was just teen pimples. but for the most part i was outbreak free.. until i found out and now Unfortunenly I have really bad outbreaks…and nothing seems to be working. Im not sure why it has changed..
I found out a couple years ago that I contracted herpes from my husband. He claims he must have had it years before we met but didn’t know. He had wandering eyes during our marriage and oviously wandering other things. We are since separated and hopefully soon will be divorced. Some days I think that I will spend the rest of my life alone and other days I think I will meet the right man for me that we will treat each other like we deserve to be treated. My fear is meeting a great guy and at some point having to sit down with him and tell him I have herpes and that someone that I could care for will walk out the door and not look back. I’m embarrassed and ashamed but I hope that we all find peace and we all find that perfect someone that will love us no matter what. I don’t want to be alone so I need to find strength and faith!
My first ever boyfriend cheated on me, I got chlamydia and herpes. My herpes comes all the time! Im too young for this and I hate it so much.. They will never find a cure for this ever, how the hell can I sit down with someone and tell them what I’ve got they will run a mile! It just makes me want to get back with my ex who made my life miserable as hell then having to meet someone new and tell them. Its such a heartbreak and its disgusting.
Whats the difference between true love and herpes?
Herpes lasts forever.
Just got through my first month of college. I’m nineteen and I just found out i got fucking herpes. Herpes!!!! Maybe it’s because i had sex with a girl who told me she had many partners. She told me this afterwards however. I shouldn’t got for the gross chicks apparently.
The list of horrible ****goes on:
Girl friend? Yea right
True love? Ok that’s done for.
My friends will shit on me forever if they found out.
I can’t even smoke weed now because I could give my buddies the virus.
What the ****!? It’s 2010. Why the ****can’t we humans find a cure for a ****virus. It’s not fair whatsoever. I ****hate the world. Forever bitter towards everything now. I don’t know if i can find joy in ****anything with herpes always on my mind and in my system.
I just got this bump out of nowhere and i thought it was just a razor bump and then it has just been getting worse. went to the doctor and they said it looks like herpes and they cultured it to make sure. I’m terrified that I got this, I feel like my life is OVER, I have no1 to talk to cause they will just judge me. Problem is I dont know how I got it because my sons father doesnt have anything, so he says. this is the worst punishment anybody could have and I dont deserve this!!
i dont now if i have it or not all i now is i got some bumps on my shaft and its not kool lol…..regardless i have notified my gorgeous girlfriend and she don’t even care which i find odd….she still wants to be with me and i appreciate that but i do need to go get tested im just scared to cause honestly i dont even wanna now cause i dunno what i would do if i actually had it….its very intimidating cause i feel like that would be the end of my life and i def dont like that………i dont now what to do….but i now i need to get tested and figure it out i just feel so alone with this that it isnt even funny and i guess i should keep my head up atleast it aint HIV right? well hey if anyone has any advice let me now because im freaking out over here and i dont now how to deal with this….and dont now if my sex life and love life will be the same if the test come back positive and i definetly dont want that happen because i love sex
well let me now something any women got any information on the sex side of things not tryin to be disrespectful or anything i just need to now what to do if everything does go bad….ill take all the knowledge on this as i can so let me now…..and i definetly need someone to talk about this with cause its honestly one of the most depressing things in my life and i dont now how to deal with it i havent told anyone except of my girlfriend that im with well atleast the girlfriend that im with for now…………
I just found out this week I have herpes. I am very sickened by it and to make matters worse my boyfriend knew he had it and did not tell me because he didn’t want to scare me away! I have such resentment towards him now and the only reason I haven’t left him is because I’m scared that I won’t find anyone else who will accept it. I have all in the same week found someone else though who seems like a wonderful guy and would be perfect for me but I’m to scared to try and have a relationship with him because of the herpes and the reaction I might get out of him when I tell him. I am trying to be very strong about this but it is extremely hard because I’m terrified I’ll never lead a normal life again or one day be able to have children.
I just found out that I have HSV2, Im so hurt and mad I don’t know what to do. Ive been doing so much research on it and the plus side of it is, it is not a death sentence. Having this is of course life changing, but what isn’t? I decided to stop crying my heart out to my boyfriend who has it now too, and look at how to live with it, we honestly have no choice.
For those of us concerned about finding a partner, don’t worry about what people are going to think of you. When you find someone that you care about and they care about you, be honest with them about this and they should respect you for it.
We can’t pitty ourselves our whole life. Smile and know you are still alive! That’s what I’m going to do.
Most days I feel badly because I don’t tell the men that I sleep with that I have the virus. I know it’s unfair but … how I got it was unfair.
When I was 15, I was raped and given the disease. That was how I lost my virginity, and he left herpes behind. I didn’t find out until I was 17 that I had it, and I still had not had sex with anyone. The first person I had sex with, I told him and he stayed with me anyway. We dated for two years, and then when we broke up, he told everyone all over town.
So now everyone knows about my dirty secret. I’m not brave enough to own up to this horrible memory of mine to the public. I am now 24 years old.
Most days, I daydream of moving away and starting over in a place where people don’t look at me and whisper behind my back.
I just came from the doctor’s office. They just diagnosed me with herpes 2. I think Im going to loose my mind. Thank you for your kind words Danielle. It meant a lot. But I dont think I can go on with my life. I feel disgusting. God is making me pay for something, I just want to know what it is.
hi guys, i caught herpes after having unprotoected sex with a guy I met for a few months when i was 25. This guy is now happily married, obviously not having as many outbreaks as me! I have had herpes for 2 years now. I suffer outbreaks twice monthly lasting 7-10 days, ranging from mild to very painful. I take valtrex 500mg daily, although my consultant is reluctant to continue to perscribe this to me- i am petrified when it is going to stop, as I know it makes the pain milder. I do not get blisters often just a burning redness from clitirous to anal area, and the feeling like i have open wounds there, i look with a mirror and the area is ruby red -no skin breaks-not much to see in comparrison to the pain i feel. I experience severe tiredness a day befor an outbreak. If i have sex i get an outbreak everytime 4 days later. Ive never had sex with my BF of 1 year without an outbreak following. I therefore avoid sex at al costs (inbetween herpes outbreaks )which is resulting in my relationship break down. Who wants to date a girl who can only have sex once evry two month? and then avoids even that. This is heartbreaking. I cry a lot. I am depressed and very lonely, i feel abused, cursed and that i will never be happy,i no longer look forward to things i was very bubbly prior to the infection and now i hide, passive and quiet. I pray for a cure or better treatment to stop the virus activating down the nerves, im sure they could find a treatment but the finance isnt there for the research-hopefully it will be in my lifetime as i wait with hope for the cure. I had so much to live for and now just hope the days pass without depression setting in. Im finding 5% lidnocaine helps, cold compress or cold water on the area, vitamin supplements, dynmaclear didnt work for me, HBALM changes the pain from a sting to a burn it makes it more bareable to stand, people at work ask you why you stink tho. such a terrible virus to have, i wish i could give a little more hope to you all but i dont have the soul or strenth, this virus destroys it.
Hey guys. I found out that I had genital herpes before my 20th birthday. My boyfriend at that time started having symptoms around the same time as me so there was no way to tell who gave it to who. I was depressed for a LONG time. I lost 15 pounds and just cried every single day. I wish that I would have stayed a virgin because this probably would’ve never happened if I would’ve just waited. But I can’t change all that now. I was very bitter about this whole thing and kept asking WHY ME? Everytime I think about herpes, I think about my future…how I probably would never get to have kids…or be married…I cry at times.. It sucks because I have an outbreak almost every month during my monthly cycle. I just want to let you all know that this is not the end. I know you are all going through tough times but god would not put you through this unless he thought you were strong enough to handle it. I always think about the day when I am finally outbreak free… even if the virus is still in me, I would someday like to be outbreak free so I could be closer to living a normal life.
My life is starting to get to normal. I met a guy who I was falling for. I cared about him so much that I told him I had herpes. I expected him to walk out on me and stop talking to me completely, but he didn’t. He was still there and was willing to work it out with me. This guy waited for me for almost a year and we STILL have not had sex..I really am thankful for meeting this guy. He is the reason why I am very hopeful. It’s very hard to try to start a new relationship with someone and I hope you guys found some kind of comfort by reading my story.
hey guys i just got diagnosed today with herpes and i feel like committing suicide…
burning today. outbreak just inside vagina. i’m devastated. i know i haven’t always been the safest…but this is just too much. i’m scared. ashamed. now i have to tell a long-distance boyfriend about it. someone i really loved, that i got this sometime between when i met him and now. i was just trying to get by. we were always safe. he will never speak to me again. don’t blame him. what is wrong with me? how could i have been so stupid? i’ve ruined my life. i want to curl up and die.
At this point, I’m sure I have herpes & I really want to die…I’m up at one in the morning as I type this crying & feeling like a fool. I just went to the the clinic a week ago to get my routine STD done & asked the practioner about this test and she told me the CDC doesn’t reccommend it for the gen. Pop. Why? Isn’t this a ver common disease? I should’ve insisted. Now ”m sitting here sick to my stomach with a small red bump on my vag, lip that doesn’t feel too well. I’ having nightmares that’ll multiply & become whiteheads by tomorrow. I’m itching everywhere and I just wanna hide in my bed 4ever. I don’t want this, I don’t to explain this to people or try to find ‘acceptance’ my life is officially compromised…I really wanna die
Hey guys,
I got my ‘present’ about 2 and a half years ago when i was 22 from a holiday fling. I was silly and didnt use protection. I’m lucky that i dont get outbreaks often i’ve had it twice that i know of. The guy did not tell me he had it and at first i was like all of you (obviously not think of taking my life as thats a bit extreme, but i have felt like i will be a little lonely old lady with just cats for company. hehe) in the 2 years i’ve had to get ‘used’ to it i have found that it really is just a social stigma (im not saying this isnt bad enough) i dont eat any differently, i dont take any medication. It’s only if i think about it too much that its makes me feel a little down. My suggestion? Try not to make a bigger deal out of it than you need to. I’m 100% sure that we all will find a love that is not easily swayed by a skin condition that others will love us for who we are.
If u have just found out you have it please talk to someone you completely trust rather than keep it bottled up. It will get easier. I’ve told a couple of close friends and my parents and when i do get a down day i speak to them. It will get easier to live with.
All we really need is some inspiring mega star to say they have it so we can all come out of the closet and make dating easier…Now wouldnt that be nice
very difficult to say how to feel. been diagnosed just 1 week ago after 15 years of marriage. tottally gutted and spent days sobbing . no idea how i contrcated the virus as my husband has no symptoms. i was sexually active before i met him and have been told it may have been with me all this time but not had an outbreak !! my husband now thinks i have been unfaithful and cant discuss it .I am not ashamed i am a honest woman who has never slept around. going forward will need to take each day as it comed i am damned my life will be ruined.
I’m shit scared, I read somewhere they said I shudnt touch the sores as this might infect other places such as lips n eyes – gues wat I have touched my sores. Dis is too scary n m afraid to tell my boyfriend. I pray they get cure for this thing soon
herpes…one symptoms of this is having lots of red spots and very iching u cannot even sleep????and red spots are all over ur skin?have water balloon i think is this…is this a herpes symptoms????????????
I think i caught herpes last year, oh how i yearn to just get that one day back, i was out with friends and this one guy was trying to sleep with me, but i didnt let him he rubbed his penis against my vag and left me with the “forever” virus, how can someone try sleep with someone knowing they have the virus, selfish i guess. But i just want to pray to jesus to take it away, i cry, yes this desease does not cause death, but that statement is not intirely true because it kills us all inside, it does, i mean look at how will judge ourselves, will the world not judge us any worse? of course they will.I just hope the lord our god hears our lonely cries and delivers us from our hidden pain, i know i feel punished too it hurts so much like why me why us, im sorry lord for my sins yes these are my confessions..I just want to read the bible more, because in the bible ppl were pouring out their hearts to jesus and they got cured from their deseases, and even on you tube i see woman getting healed from cancer and somone from aids look it up…. i believe in miracles ppl and if we pray on our knees i believe god will heal us, he made everything he can take it away,, it’s not the end ppl, prayer is very powerful..
Well… To share another story (one of hope), I was diagnosed with herpes about 8 years ago. Received it from my first love (Well, first girl I loved anyway), whom I would later find out was cheating on me pretty much the whole time we were together. How naïve I was. Upon hearing from my doctor exactly what the situation was, I was distraught. Thoughts of suicide were present. Depression. Lack of self-confidence. Loneliness. The whole nine yards. I was rather bitter for about a year, thinking that I would be doomed to a life of solitude and would never be accepted for what I had. Soon thereafter, however, I realized that my life had not become that much different than it was before I contracted the virus. In the past 8 years, I have had several lovers. I passed it to a mate only once, and I will contribute that to stupidity and alcohol. More importantly than my being able to retain a sex life is maintaining the responsibility and capacity to be honest. I told each and every lover about my situation before intimacy became an issue. That, after all, is how it should be. I still remember what a horrible surprise it was for me some years back, and I will NEVER put another in those shoes. Truth is, the fact that I have Herpes never had much of an impact on the opinions of my lovers, for they appreciated me for who I was. Not what I have. If you are afraid of what rejection could occur, or you lack self esteem due to having herpes, then there are in fact dating sights available on the web with tons of people just like us, who are yearning for a loved one just as you are. Google it. You may be Surprised. I would like to instill in you the truth that you and I are not so uncommon, though. Recent studies indicate that 2 out of every 5 Americans have herpes, and that’s just for those whom have been recorded. It is a growing epidemic still. So look around you the next time you’re at the mall, in Walmart, etc… Chances are there are at least 50 people around you who share the same grievance. In closing, I offer some information and tips I have learned that have helped me through the years. Herpes is a stress related viral infection. The more you stress, the more outbreaks will occur. I have been fortunate enough to only have, on average, 2 or 3 outbreaks a year (not lasting longer than 10 days at a time) without the use of any medication. I would recommend finding your own method of suppressing stress levels. If a break out does occur, don’t mess with it, as it will only get worse. Another tip is applying cocoa butter upon first signs of inflammation. Makes for a lot less severe and shorter outbreak. That’s about it. I hope with all sincerity that my story gives at least one struggling person out there a sense of hope. I remember still the treachery of that first year. I had no one to give me advice. I had no story of encouragement. But I pushed through it to hopefully give someone out there what I didn’t have. You are by no means alone, and you are beautiful just the way you are.
I have today been diagnosed with herpes. I’m feeling numb at the moment, but after doing much research I’m determined to not let this get the better of me. I suspect that I’ve actually had the virus for a couple of years without realising it. I recall having a small tear-like lesion some time ago but really thought nothing more of it as no other symptoms were present. My infection was the result of being careless following one too many drinks. The diagnosis is actually forcing me to take a look at my life and my behaviour.My biggest fear, like most it would seem, is telling a future partner. There is an element of shame, but I feel that comes from a lack of understanding/stigma about the virus. I have a friend who has had it for years. She enjoys a normal, healthy life (including sex life) with her partner. It’s not all doom and gloom…it’s not a death sentence. It doesn’t cause issues with fertility, and whilst it’s absolutely less than ideal, there are people with far worse conditions to deal with in this world. Good luck to everyone in the same boat. Be strong and know that you are not alone.
Some more encouragement for all of you out there…. I have also had type 2 genital herpes for 10 years… I unknowingly passed it on to my partner who became my wife..I have occasional painful( more annoying) outbreaks but have learned to live with it…Recently I became single again and started dating; always knowing I would have to reveal my secret at some stage to a new partner is difficult but a responsibility and it’s an honesty that people respect….. I have accepted certain things are off limits with a new unaffected partner but really this doesn’t prevent a good sexual relationship developing… First outbreak is the worst, it’s then an annoying but non life threatening problem, put it in context and get on with your life..
I was diagnosed 3 weeks ago with Herpes. The doctor so nonchalantly said, You have Herpes. You know there is no cure so we cant do anything for you. I died inside. I cried in his office, I cried driving home, I cried myself to sleep and kept crying for the rest of the week. I felt like my life was over and still do. After telling my boyfriend of three years that I have this disease and he should be tested, I felt worst to find out that he already knew he had it and was afraid to tell me out of fear that I’d leave. After reading some many responses of hopeful people, and people who have been living with this disease for so long and seem to live a full and happy life I am hopeful that I will be able to overcome this depression and continue with my life. Jacob your story was truly touching and actually gave me the most hope. I appreciate you sharing your story and creating hope in my heart again. I wish everyone luck, love and faith in our time of need. This is a very hard situation to deal with and overcome, but I have faith that we will. Good luck and God bless…
Hey everyone, i just had a birthday on the turn of the new year, i was given herpes 3 months ago from my baby daddy… i just had my 1st child, a little girl in june and my life was beautiful. i came in contact with the disease three months after my child was born. her father gave it to me, after havin the best moment in my life and worst moment in my life happen to me in the same year just made the situation worst. i told him what he did, he went to the emergency room and got tested, i left him there me and my baby outta anger he got his results the same day i did and he never called me since to apologize, i just had our baby for crying out loud… and i completely cut him off, he’s is outta my life for good and it’s sad because we have a child together she six months now and he has missed her 1st christmas and new year… it’s complicated i hate the situation, but yet we have a child.. this truely makes the situation worse because, if i have anything to do with it she want eva know her dad.. because of my resentment towards what he did to me….even tho he has tried to reachout i can’t bare the thought of seeing him…I WISH HE WOULD DIE I HATE HIM.. ALL HE HAD TO DO WAS TELL ME THAT HE WAS WITH SOMEONE ELSE OTHER THAN ME WHEN I ASKED HIM ALOT OF TIMES… I TRUSTED HIM.. AND HE LEFT ME WITH A CHILD AND A DISEASE!!!! ANYONE THAT IS READIN THIS DON’T TRUST KNOW ONE WITH YOUR LIFE…. ALWAYS PROTECT YOURSELVE EVEN IF IT’S SOMEONE THAT YOU THINK YOU CAN TRUST… THOSE ARE THE ONES THAT WILL DO IT TO YOU THE QUICKEST…. MY DAUGHTER KEEPS ME POSITIVE AND GOING BUT WITHOUT HER I WOULD BE COMPLETELY PATHETIC..SO I THANK GOD FOR EVERY DAY AND I LOVE BEING A MOM I JUST HATE THE PERSON I HAD A CHILD BY…..
I lost my virginity at 16 and have only been with the same guy whenever I wanted to have sex. This past August, when I was 19, and after not being intimate for about a year, we met up and only kissed and had sex. The NEXT DAY I noticed that my mouth felt tingly and burned a little bit and I also felt small bumps on my mouth and I thought that I had dry, chapped lips. About three days later I went to a clinic and the doctor told me that I had Herpes Simplex 1. Luckily, I had already looked up possibilities of my symptoms and noticed that it could actually be herpes, but to actually find out that it was still shocked me. So far I’ve only had two breakouts and have not yet had any sore-like symptoms appear on my mouth, and THANK GOD. I felt that it was the right thing to tell the guy that I had it, got it from him, and that he should go to the doctor and when I did he just brushed it off like it was nothing. Since out of the two of us, I feel like I’m the only one with a conscience to want to tell someone that I’m dating or would want to kiss, and I love kissing lol. Now because of him I feel like I’m no longer a whole woman because I won’t be able to be with a man in the ways that I would want to and that I might never be accepted by someone.
I do believe I have herpes 2. I go back to the doctor today to find out for sure. After reading most the comments I understand I’m not alone. When I found out there was a chance I was so scared. I just finished treatments for cancer in October & now I had this to deal with. I told my boyfriend & I told him I was sure I got it from him. He didn’t know what to think but he told me he would get tested, he has been so supportive through all this. I was kinda surprised. But before this I use to think people who had this kind of stuff were whores & they slept around a lot. Now I know that’s not true at all! I’ve only slept with 2 people, & both cases they were my boyfriend. Not just some one night stand. Having herpes may make you feel gross, dirty, & like nobody wants you. But just cause you have doesn’t mean that! Cause I know I’m not a nasty person & from reading the comments I’m sure y’all aren’t either! Thankyou all for sharing y’alls stories. It really helped me a lot! Keep your head up! You’re not a nasty person just cause you have this! There’s always for a cure(:
Everybody needs to lighten up a little bit. I got it 10 years ago next summer. When I found out then that’s also how I found out my wife had been unfaithful. They say you should never ask a question you don’t want to know the answer to. But I asked her anyway: How long has this been going on? And she told me. That was an ego crusher but we had a son and I know he is mine, not because she says he is, why would I believe her anymore, but because he looks and behaves like me.
So for the sake of my son plus the financial fallout a divorce would cause we stayed married. Today the marriage is so-so. I’m a libra so I can deal with it.
Sometimes I think that summer of 2001 while I was moping around feeling sorry for myself, what if I could have channeled that energy into catching the terrorists before they pulled off 9-11? But life doesn’t work like that. I just roll with it, the herpes, the infidelity, the terrorism.
Is there any hope.in being persistent to a 3rd party in finding a cure for herpes. Stupid as it sounds, maybe a petition? Wokehing along those lines as people keep.pointing out, if left like now there will quite possibly never be a cure found?
Thanks for those kind words Danielle… I found out three years ago that I had contracted Herpes when I was only two… It was because when I was 1 1/2 years old I was raped by my mother’s boyfriend. And even thought it’s not all her fault she still left me in his care and he took advantage… I am now 17 1/2 years old and I don’t think that I can ever forgive her. But I am moving on slowly and I am taking care of myself so I don’t pass this on to anybody else. I love my boyfriend but I’ve told him I won’t have sex with him cause I’m not ready… The truth is that I don’t feel safe letting him know about this problem. But I have decided that I am going to tell him tonight. I hope he is supportive… Wish me luck!
The night before I got a call from the dr’s office who confirmed my diagnosis I decided to cry out to God which I hadn’t done in many years…I grabbed a bible and it randomly fell open to this scripture… “For thus says the Lord, Your affliction is incurable, your wound is severe. There is no one to plead your cause, that you may be bound up; you have no healing medicines”…”For I will restore health to you and heal you of your wounds, says the Lord, because they called you an outcast saying, this is Zion; no one seeks her.” Jeremiah 30:11 & 17
I am a medical doctor, and am currently having my first ever outbreak. I probably have had the virus for quite a while, as I have not been sexually active for a long time. I have lesions both on the mouth and in the genitalia at the same time, it truly sucks. Nobody deserves to get a disease such as Herpes, but it is important to remember that it is a common disease, and that it is not something we should have to be ashamed of. It can hit you after 1 partner, or after 100, I just want to say; don´t spread it! Life is not over, it is just handing you a challenge. Hope you can all get over the initial shock, and any depression it may cause.
I’ve had HSV 2 for almost two years now. I contracted it when I was raped by a friends older brother. The first outbreak was the worst. I couldn’t walk, couldn’t move. All I could do was cry for the pain. I was diagnosed by a doctor at planned parenthood. I was 19 years old. Living with this is hard but do-able. It’s horribly embarassing to have to tell this to a potential lover, but its not right to not tell them. To not give them the choice that I never had. There are people that will love you, and occasionlly find someone to have casual sex with even though you have herpes. It’s not the end of the world but it’s definatly a complication. I hope my story will help someone.
If you’re having a hard time e-mail me at kira.barnhill@yahoo.com 